Develop your secret language, your code words and phrases, all of those emotions you can invoke when you most need them. Here is a message often repeated in our marriage: "My arms around you, always." When we're having a bad day and the other person can't be there to comfort, we say this to remind ourselves that our love transcends physical distance. It does help to feel that in the midst of some annoyance or trauma, I am embraced by the person I love most.

from: Kate Goff